Child Development

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As adults we have a multitude of experiences that create references for what we believe is possible and what things mean to us. It didn’t just happen that way, the role that your peers, family, parents, friends and environment played in your child development all contributed to how your brain learned to sort through information and make evaluations.

One of the most detrimental things you can do when playing a part in a child’s development, mentally anyway, is passing on your fears, insecurities and limiting beliefs for that child to take on as their own. Children learn by influence and they are influenced by everything they experience.

In other areas of this site we discuss human potential and human behaviour mainly from an adults perspective. This is to understand what drives us to do what we do and achieve the results that we do. We learn here how to change what isn’t working and install the tools that we need. With child development, we have an advantage, we get to kill the monster while it’s little, so to speak.

What does that mean?

It means that before the child has experiences and references that lead to pain we can ensure that they don’t ever have to make these negative evaluations and therefore they are starting from a clean slate. Children have an amazing sense of possibility, they think on a level of “it could happen”.

As adults we develop beliefs that limit our perception of reality, which holds back what we believe is possible and often results in failure before something is even attempted.

Gradually during a child’s development into adulthood, they are exposed to statements such as “be realistic” and “stop dreaming”. This is a great way to limit a child’s view of the world and their optimistic nature. A lot of the time we don’t even realise that we are doing anything wrong but in the long term we are basically crushing the drive that these young people possess.

The major hurdle is getting over our own weaknesses and limiting patterns of behaviour, so that is obviously a priority if you are playing a role in child development on any level.

Children learn from experience and they mimic what their parents and others of authority say and do because that is who they instinctually look up to as having the answers. If an adult believes something is impossible or should be feared then it must be right, that is the way a child sees it because they have this in-built mechanism designed to help them develop evaluation skills necessary for success and survival.

I have no doubt that we all have good intentions when we are involved in a child’s development but we need to take a closer look at how we go about it.

Children love to dream, they love wonder “what if” and have a sense of hope that any fantasy is possible. Don’t be afraid of them becoming disappointed, this is another fear that is imposed upon them by well-meaning adults. If a child is left to dream and fail along their road to adulthood, they will simply change their approach until they find what works, it’s just natural human behaviour.

How long would you give your child to learn how to walk before you let them give up and stop “dreaming”? What a silly question, of course you won’t let them give up. They won’t give up either, they may develop frustration but they will never get disappointed and see their failed attempts as ultimate failure. Eventually every child learn to walk and talk no matter how many attempts it takes.

So by interpreting the above paragraph and using the same philosophy with all their dreams and even your own, you will be a key component in their child development and their lifelong success as an adult.

Follow the links on this page for more specific information about child development from different topics and aspects of the subject. Remember that the links on this site are continuously updated and more pages are added on a regular basis to all sections of this site.